Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (via untilasinglesolitonsurvives)
And lo, the only man I have met who feels that I am unequivocally lovable no matter what is the only man who is not intimidated by me.
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Elementary Functions: B
Russian 103: A
Did much better this quarter than I expected. :D
What the less-privileged have to say is usually not accorded much importance, critical thought, or respect, and yet they are supposed to prioritize, be patient with, and generally assign more importance to views, values and norms that are not their own. People in marginalized communities are often expected to educate the more privileged majority. They may be expected to patiently explain basic concepts, sometimes repeatedly. And if those with more privilege decide that they do not agree (with the less-privileged group’s tone, focus, or any number of other things other than the actual argument that is being made), those with less privilege are told, with varying degrees of subtlety, to shut the fuck up.
All the while, the perspectives, attitudes, norms and values of those with more privilege are made neutral. The power dynamics are rendered invisible, because that’s just the way things are, so there’s no point in trying to change any of it. Why are you so angry? You’re just looking for things to get mad about. You just like being offended. Why can’t you focus on other/more important things? It wasn’t meant that way. You need to hold your tongue until you’ve done x, y and z. Quit taking it personally. You’re ruining everyone’s good time. Stop trying to make everyone pay attention to your pet issue, because it doesn’t affect anyone other than you. Your demands are unreasonable. Stop complaining. Shut up.
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I got a B in trigonometry. I don’t even know. What. That was so weird. I don’t even. huh. I guess I understood it better than I thought I did.
Hip Hop is Knowledge
I’m really dreading the day I turn 18 cause I will no longer be the dancing queen, young and sweet only seventeen
that time has come and passed
♪dancing whore, what a bore, almost twenty-four♫
Glad I’m twenty-five, ‘cause I was born to hand jive baby.
Star Trek Into Darkness Plot Twist: Halfway through the movie, Captain Kathryn Janeway marches on screen and punches JJ Abrams in the face.
Yesterday I got my letter to go ahead with a trans-related medical procedure.
To get my letter I had to sit down with a certified psychologist over multiple sessions & convince that cis professional that
a) I am sane enough to understand what I want & what the pros and cons of doing such a dramatic medical procedure are, AND
b) I really am suffering from DSM reference #302.85 and meet the WPATH Standards of Care criteria for the mental disorder that I am trying to obtain treatment for.
So that’s a hilarious little catch-22 that I’ve now successfully danced through.
While, it may be seen as frustrating to you, which i can completely comprehend how it would be, i think it’s not all a bad thing.
With the increasing spotlight on the trans community it’s not a terrible thing that there are various steps to take in getting such a procedure.
I think it’s the weed out the people who think that the new “trans-fad” is a new thing to pick up much like those very same people were “scene kids” a few years ago.
I understand it’s not a perfect analogy, and you personally are frustrated with your experience, but it’s a good process to make sure people fully understand and know what they are committing to before such a major surgery.
No, sweetie. You’re wrong.
Your basic justification of the barriers trans people face for getting treatment- namely, to keep impressionable people from hopping on the “trans trend”- is historically false. The barriers keeping trans people from treatment are there to keep trans people from being treated.
Additionally, I would like to note that you are prioritizing the potential regret of a hypothetical cis group over the very real needs of actual trans people. Some people might find this upsetting. Can you imagine why?
Also, perhaps taking off on a slight tangent here, I find it interesting that cis people tend to have this idea that there is a clear delineation between someone who is cis and someone who is trans. The idea seems to be that if you are trans, you know it as a rock-hard certainty, and you’ve always known it, and you’ve always acted like the “opposite gender” or whatever nonsense phrase cis people like to use. And for some trans people, hell yes, that’s totally the case. But it certainly isn’t an experience shared by every trans person. Some people think they’re cis for years, whether through denial or just honest ignorance, and only come to the realization that they’re trans later in life. A lot of trans people struggle with their gender, their identity, their presentation, even whether or not they actually are trans or not. There can be a huge amount of self-doubt. And why not? Many cis people struggle with their gender, too, wonder if they’re female enough or male enough, worry about their presentation, stand in front of a mirror and feel discontent about their bodies. It’s a pretty common thing to worry about gender.
I think it’s important for cis people to believe that trans people don’t, though. Trans people have it all figured out. We know what we are and we always have. Or, at least, that’s what we need to tell the doctor if we want that referral letter to get treatment.
And- this is just speculation, mind- I think it’s important for cis people to have this narrative of trans people because if cis people believed that trans people maybe struggle with their identities and maybe didn’t know all their lives and maybe the realization just kind of hit us without warning one day and after that there was no denying it and our whole lives were changed, then- fuck. That means this whole thing might happen to you.
Bolding mine, for truth.
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